Showing posts with label books. Show all posts
Showing posts with label books. Show all posts

Friday, December 4, 2009

Wonder Weeks

My friend Kat turned me onto the book "The Wonder Weeks." The premise is immensely interesting - they studied apes in Africa and found that the little babies were universally prone to go through "difficult" times at regular intervals in their development. The authors went back home and began studying humans. Amazingly, human infants did the same thing! I know it sounds a bit far fetched, but so far it's been spot on. This is a mostly cognitive development thing.

I tend to read the book after the last "Wonder Week" passes for the upcoming one, and then forget about it until Joseph gets really ornery. Then when he gets better I'll be like, "Oh I should check the book" and sure enough, right "on time" the clouds have cleared.

Yesterday I was feeling particularly good about our day - it seems almost like we have inside jokes or something now - so I grabbed the book this afternoon to see when the Wonder Week was (I couldn't remember exactly). We're at 38w5d now and it says at 39 weeks you'll go through an especially nice period! How about that.

"Big deal" you say - it was 2 days off. Except Joseph was born at 40w3d. So "adjusted" he is 39w1d - yesterday he would have been 39w.

::spooky sounds::

Mom's, get this book. If nothing else, it'll make you feel like these awful periods are a sign of something positive in your baby's life, which can make them easier to tolerate.

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Down to two naps!

Joseph had been having trouble getting to sleep at night and during naps, so I figured it was time to go down to two naps from three. So far it's going well! He really slept a ton today - 2:15 in the morning and another 2 hours in the afternoon! Plus he's been asleep now for 3 hours without waking up! This is nothing to sneeze at, as the last two months he's been waking up every 45 minutes to an hour at night! I think I may have hit upon one possible reason!

So now we're loosely following a 2-3-4 routing - up for two hours before nap #1, 3 hours before nap #2, and then 4 hours before bed. Right now he tends to be up 2-3-3 or 2-4-3, but we don't get very rigid around here about schedules.

Yey for sleep!

Coincidentally, the new book Nurtureshock by Po Bronson has an interesting chapter on children and sleep. Basically, children who don't get enough sleep perform several GRADES below their ability. It also has long-term affects on the brain. I've been reading some of the different chapters in it (each chapter is a different topic) and it's really cool. Sort of like Freakonomics, but the topics are all about children. Check it out!

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

It's all about perspective

[Note: I am not looking for solutions with this post - just sharing my experience with this part of parenting. Please refrain from suggesting we let him cry.]

Parenting is such a funny thing. One day, you'll be practically frantic trying to figure out an answer for something. The next, you have accepted it and moved on. Rinse and repeat over and over, and you have the last seven months of our life!

Lately, my obsession - and everyone else's - has been Joseph's sleep (or lack thereof). It's all anyone asks about, it seems. "How does he sleep?" About as well as we expect "Is he sleeping through the night?" Bwahahaha! "are YOU sleeping through the night?" Are you crazy? "How long will you let him sleep with you?" I don't know... Notre Dame has single sex dorms, so he'll have to leave my bed eventually.

When we were traveling, Joseph started waking up with increasing frequency. To the point that he was up 20+ times one night. That's not a typo or an exaggeration. We survive because he sleeps with us, so we don't "get up" with him in the traditional sense. I do wake up, and I do nurse him the majority of the night on bad nights. It's tiring, but not bone-numbingly so. He's going through a whole lot of emotional, cognitive, and physical changes right now so he needs us at night more than ever. And I'm OK with that. Really!

So what's the problem? Mostly I'd just like a little space to myself! I've found myself staying up until all hours of the morning (2am last night) and I think a lot of it has to do with not wanting to go to bed and be back "on the clock" even in my sleep!

The solution? I haven't found one, though I have 5 books on my side table to read on the issue. I finished one called "Good Nights" and it was just what I needed last week. A reaffirmation that we're doing the right thing and that it won't last forever! Sometimes that's all I need, I think. Then other times, I think I need to figure out how to get him to sleep without me! I vacillate, which is normal, I'm sure.

So, if you don't want to cry it out, and you co-sleep, I urge you to pick up this book. It's a nice and gentle reminder of why we torture ourselves so, and good fodder for critics, if needed! Highly recommend - it really rejuvenated my will to "go with the flow".

And now, I'm going to bed. Hopefully I'm not sleepy because this is such a boring topic!

Friday, June 19, 2009

I love reading!

Joseph loves to read before naps!

"But I don't WANT to go to sleep!"

"Maybe pleading my case will help"

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Elmo Indoctrination

Joseph has a lot of books. A lot. Like probably at least as many as we have in total if you don't include my cookbooks. And of all of them, which book gets the squeals and laughs?

My First Trip to the Farm - Starring Elmo.

That's right, somehow Elmo can get into the minds of 3 month olds. No television commercials (or heck, let's be honest: even comprehension) needed.

Whoever invented Elmo was a freaking genius.

ETA: apparently, Elmo was invented by Kevin Clash, who plays Elmo on Sesame Street, in 1985.

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Fun (free) activities

Joseph and I are on the hunt for fun (and free/cheap) activities for the summer. Luckily, he's easy to please, so I can count things like "grocery shopping" or "farmer's market" as a fun activity for him. But to appease my need to do something "educational" with him, and just because it's awesome, we went to baby story time yesterday!

There was only one other mom there, and her son Luke was a week younger than Joseph! It was neat to see another baby his same age. Joseph and Luke were pretty interested in each other, though of course they didn't "play" together at this age.

We sang songs and the librarian did some rhyming stories, it was nice. I think we'll try to catch a couple of story times every week at different places.

In addition to story time, we also have LLL meetings 2-3 times per month, which is always a fun way to spend the morning. I have a group of moms that I see once a month, as well, but once a month isn't much! The BOB shipped today! So we can go take walks at the parks around town without sweating to death. Plus the big shade hood makes me less nervous about him burning than when he's being worn in some positions.

If you have any cheap/free ideas for outings, I'd love to hear them!

Thursday, March 5, 2009

PSA: The placenta is cool

Most people don't give much thought to the placenta. To our society, it's nothing but medical waste, to be disposed of quickly and quietly along with the other messy parts of birth. It's really a pretty amazing organ though!

The placenta is the only "disposable" organ made (take that boys! women make organs at will!) The name placenta comes from the Latin for "cake", and in some languages they are called "mother cake". The placenta really is the first "mother" of the fetus - it provides for the baby while in the womb - filtering nutrients and oxygen from you to the baby, and sending waste back through to you from the baby.

After birth, people do all sorts of things with the placenta. Typically, hospitals dispose of them the same way they do other medical waste - by incineration (though some sell them to companies - see below). Sometimes families keep them to bury and plant a tree over - the tree grows with the child. Others make "placenta prints" by cleaning and using paints to "stamp" paper or some other medium - sort of like a belly cast from the inside. A few even prefer to keep the baby attached to the placenta until the umbilical cord detaches completely on its own (after a few days) - called a lotus birth. Once the the cord detaches the baby has a normal belly button - no stump! Pretty neat.

Almost every mammal species (except humans) eat their placenta after birth. Even herbivores! This is most likely to provide nutrition, though the hormones in the placenta (prostaglandins and oxytocin) can help the uterus to contract down and aid in the production of milk. A small minority of human cultures ingest their own placenta, but it's pretty rare. Among westerners who do it, often they do it for perceived medicinal benefits, such as the belief that it can prevent post partum depression and prevent hemmorage. In China it is used for medicinal purposes as well.

People will prepare the the placenta in many ways for ingestion, from drying and encapsulating it, to adding a few raw bits to a smoothie, to simply placing a small piece under the tongue after birth to absorb the hormones. Less often it's prepared in typical food fashion, but since it's an organ, unless you are a fan of liver (I'm not) it probably wouldn't be too palatable. It is not typically done for the nutritional value amongst those who do ingest it, so much as for the medicinal/hormonal benefits, as the modern western diet obviously contains a very balanced diet. It does provide a lot of nutrients though, at a time when women are being completely depleted.

Obviously, ingesting their own placenta is not something most people consider doing. I wonder though, if any of those people have looked at the ingredients of their face cream lately! Check this out, from "Birth: The Surprising History of How We are Born":

"Although many western hospitals today incinerate the organ as medical waste, some maternity facilities send them to researchers or cosmetic makers. Between 1975 and 1992, for example, placentas from 282 British hospitals, weighin 360 tons, were collected by Merieux UK Ltd., a subsidiary of a French pharmaceutical company.

"We use placentas from normal, healthy births only. Placenta is an extremely valuable and rare resource which, instead of being wasted, is used to make pharmaceutical products," Michael O'Gorman, a Merieux manager, told he London Times in 1992 when Harrods was selling a 20 GBP vial of RoC face cream - a major brnad - with human placenta that supposedly moisturized and regenerated the skin...

..."In 2001, dozens of cosmetic companies informed the U.S. Food and Drug Administration of their use of human placenta. Even Frederic Fekkai on Rodeo Drive has offered Oscar week European Plasma facials. A key ingredient: afterbirth."

Perhaps that doesn't phase people considering some of the other ingredients in skin products. I guess if given the choice I'd rather ingest my own placenta than smear someone elses all over my face!

So what will we do with the placenta? I'm not really sure, to be honest. In addition to immediate breastfeeding (which helps the uterus clamp down) and Charlotte's bag of tricks - which includes the drug pitocin - I am keeping the placenta in the back of my mind as another emergency medical treatment for post-partum hemmorage. No one participating in my birth is familiar with any type of placenta preparation/encapsulation, and I doubt I'm going to want to be doing any preparation, so more than likely we'll dispose of it after inspecting DomerBaby's first "mother".

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Another "Midwives are Awesome" post!

Auntie Debbie, my partner in crime, sent me this article from The Pioneer Press. The article is written by Jennifer Block, who wrote "Pushed: The Painful Truth About Childbirth and Modern Maternity Care". It's a book that's on my list but I haven't gotten to yet.

The article is spot-on, and hopefully we'll see change in our health care sooner than later with our new president!

Health care reform? Midwives can deliver

By: Jennifer Block

Some health care trivia: In the United States, what is the No. 1 reason people are admitted to the hospital? Not diabetes, not heart attack, not stroke. The answer is something that isn't even a disease: childbirth.

Not only is childbirth the most common reason for a hospital stay — more than 4 million American women give birth each year — it costs the country far more than any other health condition. Six of the 15 most frequent hospital procedures billed to private insurers and Medicaid are maternity-related. The nation's maternity bill totaled $86 billion in 2006, nearly half of which was picked up by taxpayers.

But cost hasn't translated into quality. We spend more than double per capita on childbirth than other industrialized countries, yet our rates of pre-term birth, newborn death and maternal death rank us dismally in comparison. Last month, the March of Dimes gave the country a "D" on its prematurity report card; California got a "C," but 18 other states and the District of Columbia, where 15.9 percent of babies are born too early, failed entirely.

The U.S. ranks 41st among industrialized nations in maternal mortality. And there are unconscionable racial disparities: Black mothers are three times more likely to die in childbirth than white mothers.

In short, we are overspending and under-serving women and families. If the United States is serious about health reform, we need to begin, well, at the beginning.

The problem is not access to care, it's the care itself. As a new joint report by the Milbank Memorial Fund, the Reforming States Group and Childbirth Connection makes clear, American maternity wards are not following evidence-based best practices. They are inducing and speeding up far too many labors and reaching too quickly for the scalpel: Nearly one-third of births are now by Caesarean section, more than twice what the World Health Organization has documented is a safe rate. In fact, the report found that the most common billable maternity procedures — continuous electronic fetal monitoring, for instance — have no clear benefit when used routinely.

The most cost-effective, health-promoting maternity care for normal, healthy women is midwife led and out of hospital. Hospitals charge from $7,000 to $16,000, depending on the type and complexity of the birth. The average birth-center fee is only $1,600 because high-tech medical intervention is rarely applied and stays are shorter. This model of care is not just cheaper; decades of medical research show that it's better. Mother and baby are more likely to have a normal, vaginal birth; less likely to experience trauma, such as a bad vaginal tear or a surgical delivery; and more likely to breast feed. In other words, less is actually more.

The Obama administration could save the country billions by overhauling the American way of birth.

Consider Washington, where a state review of licensed midwives (just 100 in practice) found that they saved the state an estimated $2.7 million over two years. One reason for the savings is that midwives prevent costly Caesarean surgeries: 11.9 percent of midwifery patients in Washington ended up with C-sections, compared with 24 percent of low-risk women in traditional obstetric care.

Currently, just 1 percent of women nationwide get midwife-led care outside a hospital setting. Imagine the savings if that number jumped to 10 percent or even 30 percent. Imagine if hospitals started promoting best practices: giving women one-on-one, continuous support, promoting movement and water immersion for pain relief, and reducing the use of labor stimulants and labor induction. The C-section rate would plummet, as would related infections, hemorrhages, neonatal intensive care admissions and deaths. And the country could save some serious cash. The joint Milbank report conservatively estimates savings of $2.5 billion a year if the Caesarean rate were brought down to 15 percent.

To be frank, the U.S. maternity care system needs to be turned upside down. Midwives should be caring for the majority of pregnant women, and physicians should continue to handle high-risk cases, complications and emergencies. This is the division of labor, so to speak, that you find in the countries that spend less but get more.

In those countries, a persistent public health concern is a midwife shortage. In the U.S., we don't have similar regard for midwives or their model of care. Hospitals frequently shut down nurse-midwifery practices because they don't bring in enough revenue. And although certified nurse midwives are eligible providers under federal Medicaid law and mandated for reimbursement, certified professional midwives — who are trained in out-of-hospital birth care — are not. In several state legislatures, they are fighting simply to be licensed, legal health care providers. (Californians are lucky — certified professional midwives are licensed, and Medi-Cal covers out-of-hospital birth.)

Barack Obama could be, among so many other firsts, the first birth-friendly president. How about a Midwife Corps to recruit and train the thousands of new midwives we'll need? How about federal funding to create hundreds of new birth centers? How about an ad campaign to educate women about optimal birth?

America needs better birth care, and midwives can deliver it.

Monday, October 27, 2008

Coolest new book!

I've been reading "Our Babies, Ourselves" by Merideth Small, and it's so darn cool! The beginning got off to a slow start (it is an academic book) but the last few chapters I've read (about sleeping, eating, and crying) have been so interesting. Like all of the books I love, this one is based on research and scientific thought, not on being a "guru baby whisperer" and making millions on the best-seller list.

Highlights:

  • Babies in countries where they are worn or held for the majority of the day and night have as many crying instances, but their episodes are much much shorter
  • Babies who are put on a "schedule" nursing get more "foremilk" and less "hindmilk". Foremilk is the leftover from the prior feeding, and much of the fat content has been reabsorbed into the mother's body. When the baby isn't allowed to feed long enough, the foremilk gets left behind and the baby receives low-caloric content milk the next time, creating a vicious cycle of hungry underfed baby and a mom who think she can't produce enough. [caveat - this is a general statement - many nursing issues go deeper than this one scientific fact].
  • Temperament - which in America is considered inborn, is not quite as obviously inborn as we tend to think. Parenting style and perception has a lot to do with whether a baby is called "easy" or "difficult". One study showed that "difficult" babies did not cry any more often than babies who were not labeled as such in other cultures!
OK, that's all off the top of my head. But you should read this book! And then you should tell me what you thought of it.

Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Book It

By Popular Demand: A list of my favorite fertility/pregnancy/baby books (and some I didn't care for):

Fertility:

"Taking Charge of Your Fertility" - this is the bible of women's reproductive health. It should be required reading for all teenagers. I highly recommend this as a first resource for anyone wanting to know more about women's health, whether you are trying to avoid (TTA) or trying to conceive (TTC).

"Fertility, Cycles, and Nutrition" - this book has some interesting information regarding vitamins and supplements for both getting pregnant and when you are pregnant. It was very interesting, and an easy read. Definitely a good reference tool.

"The Fertility Diet" - I really liked this book, it had some interesting observations regarding diet and fertility, though I think it's easy to take these recommendations to extreme. It's just another way of looking at the way our food is processed now, and how that is affecting more than our weight. If you have trouble with your cycles, or are interested in how food affects health, this is a neat book.

"Exercising Through Your Pregnancy" - I absolutely adored this book. It debunks many myths about exercising while pregnant by using actual research regarding the physiological changes of pregnancy and how that affects your workout, and vise-versa. This is actually a good read for PRE-pregnancy, as it's important to be in shape before pregnancy to see the benefits of it in your labor and post partum recovery.

Pregnancy:

"Obstetric Myths vs. Research Realities" - This is the book that started it all, for me. It is a bit medical/research based (which I loved) and it goes through actual peer-reviewed scientific research regarding common medical procedures performed on pregnant women and fetus', and the consequences. If I could only read one book on pregnancy and birth, this would be it. However, if you don't like "tough" reading, the author (Henci Goer) also wrote a second book that has essentially the same info in a less scientific format that is much easier reading:

"The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth" - If you don't like scientific writing, try this instead of the book above - same author, same info, easier read.

"Birth: The Surprising History of How We're Born" - This is exactly what the title suggests... a history book. It's fascinating, but sometimes gory. I finally had to just skip a section after they described in detail how they removed a fetus that was stuck in the birth canal. Overall it's a fantastic book that I highly recommend. I just finished it, but it sort of goes along w/ the Goer books in that is shows how many procedures and drugs have been basically "experimented" on women over the last few centuries, and why we should be weary of "safe" procedures that are used today that have not been adequately tested.

"Ina May's Guide to Childbirth" - this is a really cool book. Ina May Gaskin is an uber-famous midwife who left California in the 60's or 70's and settled in Tennessee. She founded "The Farm", a community where families could come and have a "home birth" away from home. She kept great records of the births and their techniques, allowing for some of the information that is known about the safety of home birth today. Gaskin even has an obstetric maneuver named after her that (gasp) DOCTORS use today. ;) There is info in the book about the labor process, as well as birth stories. It's a good read.

"Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way" - Read this book before investing in an expensive and time consuming Bradley birthing class. It's an interesting book, and has some good information in it, but it'll basically give you an idea of whether Bradley is for you. (I don't think it's for me - the focus on Bradley is getting a low-intervention birth at a hospital while still managing the pain of labor. I don't want to spend 16 weeks of classes devoting my time to learning how to avoid unnecessary interventions I will not have to worry about).

"The Birth Book" - This is a book by Dr. Sears (famed pediatrician). It was written in the 1970's and is very personalized, basically a story of his own family with the normal pregnancy info in between. It's not a must read, but if you want some light easy reading it's not bad. His wife had home and hospital births, so it does have a compare/contrast in that regard.

"Gentle Birth Choices" - sort of a watered down version of "The Thinking Woman's Guide"... I haven't made it all the way through this book. I've been distracted by some others lately. If you are trying to limit the amount of reading you do, I'd ditch this one.

"Your Pregnancy Week by Week" - I was so excited about this book because of the good reviews it gets, but it's b.o.r.i.n.g. Sign up at www.babycenter.com - they tell you the exact same information for free, leaving out the random unnecessary tidbits for filler (don't need to know my options of what to do if I'm in the military, thanks!)

"Birthing From Within" - This book was not for me, way too "artsy" and alternative. I just couldn't get into it, though I can see where most home-birthers would have more interest in a book like this. If you are into "letting your feelings flow" and getting to the root of fears through drawing, this one's for you.

"The Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy" - funny, but way to mainstream for my birth choices. It's light-hearted in nature, and a good source of info on what your body *really* does during pregnancy and how you may feel.

"What to Expect When You're Expecting" - Just walk away from this one.

Babies:

"The Vaccine Book" - If you aren't sure about what vaccines you want to give your baby, or just want to learn about what's in them, and what diseases they prevent, I highly recommend this book. Dr. Sears is actually very PRO vaccination, contrary to what many people believe before they read this book. He makes a good case for using them, and suggestions on variations of schedule as well as reasons that some people choose not to get a particular vaccine. I found it overwhelming, but a very important book. I'll definitely be going back through it when it's time for shots.

"Raising Baby Green" - still working on this one, but it seems pretty boring and dull so far.

On my list of books to read (that I haven't gotten to yet):

"Our Babies, Ourselves: How Biology and Culture Shaped the Way We Parent"
"Great Expectations: Your All-in-One Resource for Pregnancy and Childbirth"
"The Complete Book of Pregnancy and Childbirth"
"Infants, Children, and Adolescents" (a textbook recommended by an ND professor on cognitive development)
.... and more, but I'm exhausted from typing all this!

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Eco-Friendly Family

Since I'll probably be talking a lot about environmentally friendly (and healthful) baby items, I thought I'd address some of what I've been learning in this blog, and how it relates to DomerBaby.

Organic foods:

Here are just a few tidbits I've learned from reading these amazing books that have literally changed the way we live our lives. Check them out!

"The Omnivore's Dilemma"
by Michael Poulin
"In Defense of Food" by Michael Poulin
"Animal, Vegetable, Miracle" by Barbara Kingsolver

Not all organic foods are eco-friendly. Even if pesticides aren't being used, the cost of transportation can be enormous. Produce travels an average of 1,500 miles to get to your plate. Organic farming practices themselves aren't necessarily great for the environment, either. Buying locally can also help - especially when you are buying from small family farms that plant different foods together.

Organic foods are generally a lot better for you, however. Here is a list of "The dirty dozen" foods that you should buy organic because of the pesticide load. It's a good place to start. We've added grass-fed beef, cage-free eggs, organic chicken, organic milk, and wild fish to our grocery list as well. Besides being bad to ingest, pesticides really take a toll on the environment. Pesticide use is much, much heavier than it was when we grew up. They flow into our rivers and lakes and kill plant and animals.

The best thing to do environmentally is to buy local produce. The best thing for your health is to buy organic. If you can combine the two - you are amazing. We're doing our best at making these choices... sometimes it's confusing and depressing. I hope that by putting our money where our mouth is, more and more organic farming will be done, and more stores will offer local and local/organic produce.

So, how does this relate to DomerBaby? First, I firmly believe that industrial food, and the processed foods that come from them, have adversely affected the health of our nation. Sure, our children will have mac'n'cheese and McDonald's, but not often. I'm usually a big fan of moderation, but I think "rarely to never" is the best idea for some of these foods. Second, our legacy to our children is the earth (ours certainly won't be coming into a large sum of cash!). What are we leaving them with? We can - and need - to do better. Working on our food supply would be a great start.

Monday, July 21, 2008

Birthing choices

Yes, we're planning a homebirth. Don't be frightened. It's as safe for DomerBaby as being in a hospital, and MORE safe for me. I'll put some reference books at the bottom of this post in case you are interested in learning more.

T.J. and I are comfortable and excited about the prospect of having the baby at home. Our main reasons for choosing a homebirth are:

1) To avoid unnecessary medical interventions for me and DomerBaby,
2) To be able to labor and birth in any position that works best for me, and
3) To feel comfortable with the people who are in the room while I'm birthing.

Today I met with the 2nd of 3 homebirth midwives that we are interviewing (T.J. missed this one because of work). She works with another midwife, and they have 40 years combined experience in birthing! Amazing. They were a bit more conservative than the last woman we met - they won't take twin or breach births. But they've also only lost 2 out of 1400 babies! Can you imagine seeing a hospital with that statistic? They transfer about 10% of mothers to the hospital, and about 3/10 of those will have a c-section. That's an amazing statistic. It is in part because of their careful screening of who they accept as a patient, and the self-selection of women who want to homebirth - who usually are in very good health and take great care of themselves. But still. Most hospital c-section rates are around 30%. Thirty Percent!!!

Half of all pregnancies are now medically induced, which seems to be one of the causes of the big jump in c-section rates. It's really quite insane. The average gestation for a first-born baby is 41w3d (assuming you aren't one of the unlucky 50% who are induced). Most doctors won't even go PAST 41w. When the baby is ready to be born, it releases a hormone from it's brain that begins labor. When inductions are done before the baby is ready, the process is often:

Induction -> overwhelming pain from the meds for mom -> epidural -> low heart rate of the baby (from epi and/or from prolonged unnatural contractions compressing the baby) -> emergency c-section.

I think we're safer at home.

Great books about Homebirth:
Obstetric Myths vs. Research Realities - Henci Goer
The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth - Henci Goer
Gentle Birth Choices - Barbara Harper
Ina May's Guide to Childbirth - Ina May Gaskin
Spiritual Midwifery - Ina May Gaskin

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